There Goes the Neighborhood — Again

You fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me, the saying goes. What are we to make of our gatekeepers in mass media who keep handing victories to a woman with no discernible talent — except making a public spectacle of her sex life, heading up a cottage industry based on a vulgar life, and cashing on an extremely short-lived marriage?

You’ve all probably seen that the April issue of Vogue features a portrait of Kanye West and his fiancee Kim Kardashian. People everywhere are in an uproar that their beloved standard bearer of fashion, style and class would stoop to such depths add to let Miss Kardashian occupy the same space as pop culture royalty — Audrey Hepburn, Beyonce, Naomi Campbell, Cher, Michelle Obama, and Rihanna.

You can read all about the scorn being heaped on this couple, from fiery indignation to flip indifference, all over the Web. I see a couple of things going on here. The first is that Kim could not carry the cover alone, now that she is just past the prime of her career as a sex worker and fame monger. She had to share it with her repellant, self-anointed pseudo-messiah of a fiance. (Even tough I’ll admit that he is legitimately super talented.) Even Miley Cyrus was going to have her own Vogue shoot, until she incurred public contempt with her frenzied masturbating at some award show. If Vogue could defend its integrity from the likes of her, then how could it drop the ball when it came to the brunette?

Which brings me to my second point. The mighty Vogue has fallen far indeed if its resorting to two of the trashiest public figures to compete in the lineup at the newsstands. Neither woman is so striking or iconic that they really define the best sensibilities of their times, generally the reason people are chosen for the cover of Vogue. And their infamy supersedes any legitimate talent. Yes, Kim has her millions of minions of twits following her micro blog. She has the show, the fashion business and all the other trappings of a career born from a sex tape. And Miley is a singer. But neither one, as far as I can see, is an undisputed icon of fashion, or heading in that direction. Yet the most revered publication of fashion, style and beauty was actually going to reward both women with a cover. And wasn’t it a couple of months ago that Kanye was throwing a hissy fit over Michele Obama getting her second cover before his fiance got hers?

It really says a lot about how mystified the decision makers are in mass media about their audiences to keep foisting this woman on people. She got a TV show, treating us to her entire gold-digging family. Then Tyler Perry cast her in his movie last year, “Temptation,” but that didn’t help it at the box office, and now Ms. Wintour has put Kim Kardashian on the cover of her magazine. Will it work, though?

Let’s all take this lesson: As important as Vogue is in its own world, it upholds shallow and meaningless values in the bigger picture. We shouldn’t be overly concerned that the publication decided to feature Kim ahead of say, Lupita Nyong’o. (Had to work her in somehow!) It’s a sign of the times, and my sense is that it won’t pay off for the publication in the long run.

Aside from the YouTubers who post tutorials of Kim’s hair and makeup looks, or devotees of her reality show, who is going to treasure that issue of the magazine? The general public is reacting to Kimye like — symbolically enough, given her history — a rash that flares up every now and then but is never really cured.

Maybe I’m wrong and Kanye ended up giving an insightful interview. Maybe we’ll be pleasantly surprised, but I think we’ll just see more of the same antics from these two. Until someone else inexplicably decides to reward their off putting behavior.

Looking Forward to Zoe’s Story

It’s been a year since actress Zoe Saldana married Italian artist Marco Perego, and did so in such privacy that my nosy (and overworked, tired, blog-neglecting) self missed it. Well, she wants to talk about it now, and I’m interested in hearing what she has to say.

The Huffington Post has a preview and excerpt from Edit magazine.

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“I’m not a private person, but I am discreet, so [getting married in secret] felt right,” the 35-year-old actress tells the new issue of Net-A-Porter’s The Edit, which she covers. … As for why she decided to finally tie the knot with Italian artist Perego, whom she quietly married in England last June, Saldana says he brings out the best in her.

Zoe is a favorite beautiful woman at Black Like Mom, so let’s wish her all the best as God enlarges her territory.

Well Are They Or Aren’t They?

I don’t usually root for celebrity couples, but these two have reeled me in lately. Lupita Nyong’o, the Kenyan Oscar-winning actress, is said to be involved in a budding relationship — or at the very least some heavy flirting — with Oscar-winning actor and musician Jared Leto. How did this rumor start? Probably after the press noticed that these two always seemed to find themselves next to each other at events during the red carpet & award show season. To be honest, Jared has helped keep the rumors afloat by throwing out references to marriage between him and Lupita, and repeatedly complementing her as classy. And Lupita certainly didn’t quell any tittle tattle after posting the now-viral selfies from Paris.

Lupita Nyong'o, Jared Leto

Always the warm, tactile greeting.

Jared Lupita Paris 2014

Let’s just keep things quiet for now …

At the very least, they make a strikingly attractive pair, and the energy and chemistry between them is undeniable. Maybe that’s because each was having an incredible run this season, racking up trophy after trophy for their respective acting roles (“12 Years A Slave” for Lupita, and “Dallas Buyers Club” for Jared). Each is a fascinating person in his/her own right, socially aware, well-traveled, sophisticated world views and Lupita is even more fascinating. She has lived around the world, speaks several languages and has directed a documentary film. I think most people can agree that the attraction is a little heavier on his part. I mean Lupita is the toast of Hollywood as the perfect combination of grace, beauty, intellect and dignity. She is, as Jared put it, “a classy chick,” who just made a virtual clean sweep of her debutante award season, culminating in her Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress! Who could blame him if he was falling for her?

Yes, yes, we’ve all seen the counter rumors of a supposed romance between Lupita and K’Naan, a Somali-Canadian rapper. Apparently, they were photographed outside a television studio all hugged up against the chilly weather, and he was carrying her Oscar trophy in a very boyfriend-ish way. Boyfriends carry their girlfriends heavy trophies, apparently. I’m not falling for that one, though. Would a classy girl like Lupita allow herself to be caught in such a public flirtation if she were already in a committed relationship for months? I guess anything is possible, but it’s unlikely.

Smiles, as usual

Smiles, as usual

We’ll just have to wait and see, but around these parts it’s team Jared & Lupita, not even going to lie. It’s worth it for the Lupita tea alone, but together they would be very exciting. They’re so interesting and worldly. A pair like that could accomplish a lot. A lot more than merely owning the red carpets or sitting down for an intimate exclusive with Oprah at their oasis of a home while their kids are tucked away somewhere with the nanny. I see ambassadorships, advocacy and philanthropy. Brains and beauty and charisma like that in one person is breathtaking, but in a couple? Well that’s too good to pass up.

Nope, I’m not gonna miss this ship. All hands on deck to get these two together. LOL!

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Mellody, Everest and George Out and About

The proud parents of Everest were out and about recently, and they were looking good with that cutie pie!

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I had to chuckle at Mellody’s quick style because I have been there with my own daughter. I always side eye glamour shots and cartoon renderings of fashionable moms on the go, toting their tiny ones and tots in one arm, with a stylish bag slung over one shoulder and a couple of shopping bags swinging from her dainty fingers. Their hair and faces are beat to perfection, And they are wearing heels. That might be the reality 20% of the time for a fraction of moms out there, but in the real world we cannot always be Durgas, serenely slaying every aspect of our busy lives.

We can be every woman some of the time. Just not all.

Sad News About Rutina & Jacob

Rutina & Jacob, when they were happier together

Rutina & Jacob, when they were happier together

This celebrity couple didn’t make it. News broke late Wednesday that Rutina Wesley, best known for her role as Tara Thornton in “True Blood,” filed for divorce from her husband of 8 years, Jacob Fishel. He is also an actor, best known for the film “How I Got Lost.”

It’s always sad to hear about breakups of any kind. Marriages always start out with love and the best of intentions, the desire to go the distance. They also seemed grounded enough to stay solidly together, judging by their interviews, though I can’t help think that as her career picked up steam and his didn’t so much, it created tension that aggravated any existing issues between them.

They had no kids, so at least they will be spared the possibility of a public, emotional custody negotiation.

Good luck to them both. There are second chances at lasting love.

Mellody and George Welcome ‘Everest’

mellody_hobson_h_2013The news keeps getting better for George Lucas and Mellody Hobson, who welcomed their biological daughter via a surrogate last Friday. She’s named Everest Hobson Lucas, according to news reports.

Mellody herself received warm congratulations about her daughter’s birth during her appearance on “CBS This Morning.”  The part about the baby is at the end. I can’t wait to see photos, but knowing the Hobson-Lucases, who released only spare details about their discreet wedding (my favorite) we’ll get nary a glimpse of the little angel, who probably has her mama’s adorable smile.

I just think it’s wonderful that a guy who was probably done with raising kids loved his wife so much that he agreed to go ahead and dive in to fatherhood again for a young one, to make their family what they wanted it to be. God bless ’em.  Long happy life to all!  (Oh, and ignore all the milksop alarmists who will write snively comments on celebrity gossip sites about the longevity of the parents and who will be there for little Everest. In any case, George has three adult kids who could step in if need be.)

By the way, Mellody’s segment was largely about the pay gap among male and female top executives. I say cut the guys’ pay, because executive compensation is probably a little over the top across the board, and people have been complaining about it for years. But that’s just the influence of my New York Times-reading populist husband.