It’s Official: Naptural85 Is The Best Natural Hair Vlogger

It’s refreshing to see awards and honors go to people who really deserve them. So when I scanned this article on, about their Best in Black Beauty Awards, I was happy to see that Whitney White, also known as “Naptural85,” topped the heap. She really is a cut above the rest, with her tips […]

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Hey, America: Black Women Are NOT After-THOTs!!!

Over the centuries, Americans have conditioned themselves to see Black women as beneath their contempt, as unworthy of old-fashioned chivalry or the basic common decency extended to strangers in the street. They see Black women as after-THOTs. That’s not a misspelling, by the way. It’s my expression of the dismissive scorn heaped on Black women in […]

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How Ya’ll Like Us Now?

“Weave, weave, we don’t care. Give them horses back their hair!” If you came of age in the 90s and the early millennium, you remember that chant. It was Black men’s favorite rebuttal to Black women who insisted on styling their hair with weaves, and a knee-jerk response against any female hostility they might incur for marrying out, particularly to […]

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We Don’t Mean to Pry, But …

Are Lupita Nyong’o and Common dating?? Reports have them hanging out in Brooklyn, where she has an apartment. He apparently lives in Fort Greene. If they are “taking things slow” in the beginning, that would be awesome!! No pressure, though. Just take your sweet time enjoying each other’s company. We can wait for the … whatever […]

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I Refuse to Raise A ‘White Girl’

Had Hubby and I had more children, I wonder what they might have looked like. We only have our Baby, and although she is a joy, in some ways this little family is not enough. It’s not enough for her, who doesn’t exactly enjoy being an only child, and not for me, who envisioned having three children by now. But […]

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IR Couples Have to Laugh at Themselves Sometimes

I watch Sleepy Hollow on FOX. I do. The show hooked me in its first season last year, because it was bat-shit crazy and lots of fun. Rather, it used to be loads of fun in the first season. But then the writers took things too seriously, all kinds of overwrought drama ensued in the second […]

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Beaded Gown Ferragamo Purse

St. Valentine’s Day Styling

It’s the most wonderful time of the year … St. Valentine’s Day of course. I have to hand it to Hubby, he’s come through with a few pretty good presentations for this particular day in years past. Once, he surprised me at the train station with a while bag of goodies from Crabtree & Evelyn […]

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The Cobb-Hoppers on the porch of their new home.

A Changed House, A Changing America

We just dodged a massive blizzard in the Northeast, but we still got snowstorms and my daughter’s school is closed today. That means I’m taking advantage of the free day to cornrow my daughter’s hair into an up-do, and watching reruns of “Fixer Upper,” a new show on HGTV. “Fixer Upper” is hosted by Chip […]

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The Jupita ‘Ship’ Is On the Move Again

Lupita Nyong’o, one of my favorite actresses, and Jared Leto kept the gossip mills churning last year with their flirtatious companionship during last year’s long awards and red carpet season. Well, the favorite would-be couple of many an entertainment reporter is back, and they are sending hearts and Twitter aflutter again with their chemistry and […]

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Love in Black and White

The other day I went to see “Selma” with a friend of mine (it’s well worth the ticket and the running time), and one of the trailers promoted a new Kevin Costner movie, “Black or White.” Kevin portrays Elliot Anderson, a recently widowed attorney drawn into a custody battle over his biracial granddaughter, whom he has helped […]

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My daughter's rendering of Anansi, inspired by her library book.

Along Came A Spider: Our Daughter’s Growing Affinity with African-Caribbean Culture

I decided from the jump not to introduce a lot of angst into my interracial relationship, or make growing up biracial a special burden for my child. While a successful and well-adjusted life depends as much on how the outside world treats us as how we react to it, I took steps to ensure that everyday life […]

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Baby’s Most Important Connection Yet

My in-laws live almost 900 miles away from New Jersey, tucked in a two-story log cabin-style house in the foothills of the Appalachian mountain range, the part that touches the Deep South. We see them twice a year, yet my daughter has always known their faces and been familiar with them, thanks to the miracle of […]

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Marshana’s New Real-Life Interracial Boo?

Some women might give up on interracial love if she had a bad experience, particularly if the relationship ended in a public breakup — and I mean a nationally televised rejection like what you see on “The Bachelor.” That’s what happened to Marshana Ritchie, one of the women competing for the attention of Matthew Grant on the […]

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Sex and Living Single, In Accra

A few months ago a friend of mine texted me a link to a Web series, “An African City,” a scripted Web series that followed the lives of five West African women returnees. They strive to manage successful careers, balance cultural traditions with “First World” sensibilities, and of course, look for love. I’m looking for more […]

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